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It has been a frustrating day. Not so much for myself, but for others. I find people highly stressed, given a small task. It must be in the water. Chuckle. I can only image people have their own problems in their own lives. Whatever the trouble is, it must consume them on a daily basis. Dealing with those close seem to be the worst. When I ask a favor, they give you lots of excuses not to do it. Yet, when they want a favor, they expect it done. Humph!
I’ve learned a great lesson this week. Don’t ask for help unless someone volunteers it. There are some people very sweet and compliant. I’m not talking about those people. I’m talking about those that make you feel guilty by asking them a favor. I just wanted to express my opinion; it is my opinion only. I guess I complain too much. I will be thankful for what I have. I am really blessed!
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I totally understand. I’m guessing it comes from folks always looking for some kind of delightful distraction, and usually finding one that asks nothing of them in return. There is this part of living in harmony with our buddies that entails “effort”, and many folks have gone far, far away from remembering why effort is important in maintaining friendships.
Having things made so easy for us rather loses the zest from life. Hee hee hee… it’s funny. Most of what I’ve asked for is “What did you enjoy? What are your highlights?” And wow! It’s amazing how even that style of effort, that was fun once upon a time, has become the hardest. And I’ve been harassed about asking for that. Greed is a very strange emotion to me, but that seems to be part of the trouble. Peace.
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Thank you for your reply. You are right that making things easy takes the zest out of life. I find people are overly stressed when they feel they haven’t done what is expected of them. Clearly, saying no in the beginning is better than becoming unglued over a trivial thing. A lesson learned is that you don’t ask these people again in the future.
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Yes indeed! I tried “the honour system” with the internet and extremely rare is the person who was honourable with it, even some of the nicest people.
One thing that has been going down hill are listening skills. My husband taught me how to be precise and when one communicates simple can be best. Someone would tell him, “But I wanted this,” and he would respond, “But you didn’t say that, you said something else.” The light bulb comes on for some but not everyone.
A lot of really generous people have gotten taken advantage of, I notice, more and more often. However, I think the people who get twisted up are having some pang of consciousness because they’re out of practice with forethought. The guilt seems to be eating away at them weirder than before. Saying “no” would have been easier, rather than coming up with excuses.
Thanks for chat! ^_^
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