I am in midst of another storm in life. Life has seemed to be stressful lately. I see my elderly parents, well into their 80’s now, as fragile and immortal ‘beings’ on this planet. A once strong and empowered mother, is now the victim of her age and senility. My six-foot father shows his age physically with a deteriorated and weaker body. It makes me wonder what will happen when they both pass this earth.
I became a stronger person when I divorced many years ago. I learned to be independent and work for a living. I earned a doctorate degree and obtained a well-earned retirement by age 52. Maybe bragging on myself, but I have accomplished some things I feel I wouldn’t have done if still married. I had all the comforts of home then and a husband that could financially support me. I wanted more and my own identity for some reason.
At times, I just want to cry. It wouldn’t solve the problem, but would make me feel a hell of a lot better. Over the past couple of months, our mother hasn’t been feeling good. We know the difference. Scared that she has suffered another stroke, my sister tried to get her into the car this morning to take her to her doctor. My mother would not budge. I am waiting on the doctor to call back to see the next step.
It is terrible to see your aging parents medically ill. My beloved mother, who is normally a bright and positive person, is now determined to stay away from doctors and the hospital at all costs. I feel helpless that I can not help her – physically that is. She has gone to medical clinics and doctors who say her medicine is okay and she is cleared of infection. I am really concerned of her refusal to seek medical help at this time.
In the midst of this storm, I am getting medical tests of my own this week. There is far too much pollen in the air, which hinders breathing. Doctors are not sure why I am short of breath, but I believe it has something to do with the high pollen count at this time of year. Georgia is probably the worst state to live in during springtime if one suffers from seasonal allergies. I am one of those people.
Hope everyone has a good week with lots of sunshine and warmth. Spring is definitely here now!
Take heart. We all go through tough moments in life but these are all learning experiences which make us tougher and wiser as we go through life . Prayers are helpful too since it will give you something to fall back on as you slug it out. It happens to me too.
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You are right in that prayer is the best way to seek comfort in these trying times.
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Soft and flawless writing.
Wishing you stength and a good health (:
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Thanks. Always good to hear positive thoughts. 🙂
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Go forward with confidence in your achievements.
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Thank you, Deborah. I needed to hear that. 🙂
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Keep writing; keep creating. Blessings to you and your family .
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I am in Georgia, too, and my asthmatic allergies are here in full force, accompanied by severe sinus headaches. Not fun! I hope you get some relief soon! Will be thinking of you and your parents as well. I lost my mother to cancer 2 years ago. She was 84. My dad is now 87, and I just spent the afternoon taking care of financial matters for him. It’s not easy to see one’s parents age. Hang in there!
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Thanks for your reply. My mother is 86 and my father is 89. They have both lived a pretty long life. I can’t imagine losing either one of them and love them so much. My mother has been physically ill lately and my father has been overwhelmed with caring for her. My sisters and I are really stressed right now. It may become necessary to hire a full-time caregiver for my mother soon.
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You and your sisters and parents will be in my thoughts and prayers. I know this isn’t easy. I had to keep up with all of my mom’s medications and doctor appointments and had to go with her because my dad just couldn’t handle everything. I was trying to work part time and had to drive almost an hour each way to get to their home almost every day. As she got sicker, I had to help set up things with hospice. You will get through this, but it’s always difficult. I hope it helps to know that others are thinking of you and keeping you in our prayers.
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It is okay to cry and let your emotions out! Strong people recognize the need for that natural and healthy release. Take care!
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Thank you.
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Thank you so much and you are very sweet. I’m sorry about your mother. I feel powerless right now. My sweet elderly mother is resistant to anything my sisters and I do to help her. Talking with her PCP today, hopefully a new medication will help her sleep and calm her down some. She gets agitated when we try to offer any help. I fear she will resist any suggestion of a caregiver for her.
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Thank you, Deborah. I haven’t given up yet. Blessings to you and your husband.
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